Aligning your environment with your state of mind

“Beware of the company you keep. Happiness is contagious and so is negativity. People who are not happy themselves cannot be happy for you. Hurt people tend to hurt people.”

Your environment directly influences your behavior and state of mind. Therefore, there needs to be consistency between your thoughts, actions and environment.  The first thing you consider when you plan a vacation is which location is best suited to support the experience you want to have. If you want a peaceful, relaxing experience you’d consider a small island or cabin in the mountains, not a big city.  We are often very critical when assessing our external environments (e.g. work, neighborhoods, Starbuck’s) and the people in these environments, except when it comes to those closest to us like friends and associates.

Emotions can be contagious. Have you ever noticed that when someone starts complaining, you start to complain as well. Or when someone smiles as you, you automatically smile back. What you put out is often what is returned, and what is given to you often has a direct influence on how you feel. So beware of the company you keep. Happiness is contagious and so is negativity. People who are not happy themselves cannot be happy for you. Hurt people tend to hurt people.

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2 responses to this post.

  1. Posted by Shaquita on August 22, 2009 at 9:10 AM

    I absolutely agree! Lately, I’ve been trying to manage who I spend time talking to, and even hiding people from my FB homepage who do nothing but complain or talk about non-sense. I’ve noticed that some people tend to focus their conversations with you to the areas where they can “one up you”. You can’t control other people’s energy, but you can control the energy you bring into your life.

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  2. Posted by Janel on September 1, 2009 at 3:00 PM

    Girl, you ain’t never lied. I especially like your comment about hurt people and what they are able and willing to do. Sometimes, you think. how could someone do XYZ and then when you take a large, large step back you realize that they are just hurt. I was talking with a friend this past weekend about the affect of hurt and pride on one’s action…

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