Posts Tagged ‘relationships’

Crossing Paths

“A black cat crossing your path signifies that the animal is going somewhere.” –Groucho Marx

There are times when you cross paths with someone and it impacts you more than you could imagine. It is the one thing that someone says that is so simple, yet so timely; or a chance meeting with a stranger or reunion with a friend or associate that makes all the difference in the world.  You leave feeling refreshed and assured that something about that interaction was meant to be; that God was trying to tell you something.  I had one of these moments this week. A classmate from business school emailed me saying she had a layover in Madrid and wanted to see if we could meet up.  We’re not close and haven’t talked since school, but that never matters with my classmates from the GSB. (I won’t ramble about my love for the GSB and our community, but those who know understand).  So we planned to meet at my flat and then get massages, but when she arrived she was really tired and stressed.  So she took a nap, a shower and we had lunch before she left for the airport. We only spent about an hour talking and in that time she gave me so much positive energy and feedback about the crazy ideas in my head. I didn’t necessarily need her confirmation about the ideas, what I needed was her openness, willingness to listen and ability to connect. We established a connection of trust in that short period of time that I haven’t established with people I’ve known for years.  I naturally do a lot listening and guiding for other, so when I have someone who is willing to listen I tend to go full speed ahead. I realize this is something I have been missing while in Madrid. So here’s to a great, unexpected meeting.  Perfect timing at its best!

Keep your eyes and ears open for messages to help direct your life. Observe the people around you and interactions you have with them.  The conversation you have with the stranger on the train or while having coffee with an old associate may provide the answer you need for the problem your facing.

We are not here alone, so why not rely on the wisdom, gifts and talents of others? Situations that you believe to be insignificant may turn out to be your pot of gold. Instead of running from the black cat, follow it. It may lead you somewhere.

Mac vs. PC Man

Getting laid off has afforded me the opportunity to experience so many new things.  It’s true that when God closes one door, an infinite number of new doors open. One of my new experiences was purchasing a Mac computer. I have never purchased a computer in my entire career because I was fortunate to always have a laptop for work. My company even let me keep my laptop when I was away at business school. Well, getting laid off ended that and I was faced with the difficult decision of what type of laptop to buy. I knew Macs were the sexiest machines out there, but they came with a significantly higher price tag than PCs. So my goal was to figure out if in the end if it was worth it. I did a bunch of research, store tests and interviews and still wasn’t sure what the answer was. I stepped out blindly and ended up getting a MacBook. It took a while for me to adjust to it and a month into using it I was indifferent.  I felt like I could have stayed with a PC and because the Mac was too much to adjust to. Things changed slowly as I got more and more acquainted with it and four months later, I made the famous declaration of “I’m never going back to a PC again”!.

So here I am enjoying my love affair with my Mac and I started thinking about the Mac-PC debate in relation to men. I now pose this question for men…Which is better, the Mac man or the PC man? Here’s a description of each in relation to its computer counterpart.

The Mac man is sexy, smart and sophisticated and knows it. He has swagger for days and the confidence to back it up. He enjoys making you happy because his mother taught him how to treat a woman. Although, generally refined, he can be edgy and quirky at times, which keeps you interested. You never know what new feature you’ll learn about him that day.

While the Mac man is ahead of his time, he can only vibe with special individuals and often alienates himself from other people. He can be arrogant and a bit snobby because he knows he is a rare breed and has the tricks to prove it. Girlfriends of Mac men recognize each other immediately because they know they’re the only ones who can handle such a powerful man. He wins the girl because he listens to her needs and goes the extra mile to fulfill her desires. The downfall is you never know what a Mac man is thinking. He could want to settle down one minute or move to Paris the next. Mac men can be hard to find and once hurt; it’s hard for them to recover. They become closed and will not allow you to help them.  You’re limited knowledge of their emotions, forces you to set them free.  They usually find themselves returning to a safe haven to spend time with the people who can help rebuild their ego. The next version of this man is even more impressive than the last.

The PC man loves love being him because he is very well known and recognizable by the masses. Most people don’t know anything about the Mac man and therefore he has the competitive advantage.  He prides himself on being the average guy.  He started from humble beginnings, but found a way to create success for himself and those around him.   He is not a man of extremes, but even keeled and predictable. Sometimes he doesn’t recognize his flaws initially, but is always willing to work on them when pointed out although this is usually a slow process.

The PC man can be versatile and is attracted to a broad range of women. His dress varies depending on the occasion. Some days he finds himself in a suit, other days in jeans and tennis shoes.  His love is universal and is not as discerning at the Mac man. The PC man is stable and wants to maintain his position as the key person in your life. He will hold down a job, stay at home with the kids, and make you happy 80% of the time. It’s the remaining 20% that drives you crazy.  His predictability can be stifling when fun and creativity takes a backseat to everyday tasks. When the relationship with a PC man crashes and burns and you enter a new relationship with another PC man, you may find yourself back in the same situation again.

I wrote this on my layover at JFK. I was sitting in a bar on my laptop when I noticed three other people sitting near me with a Mac. I found myself checking them out and making a judgement about the types of people they were. I was thinking, “Oh they must be cool, interesting people if they have a Mac”. So will my current love affair with my MacBook last forever, or does it suit my needs for this period in my life? Having had both types of computers and dated both types of men, I find myself wondering which is better? And is it situational depending on the time in your life? 

DVF Drops Knowledge

(Disclaimer: Please note, this is not an endorsement to watch The City as doing so may result in a fat ass and the lost of brain cells).

Who says nothing valuable can be learned from watching The City. For those of you who have better things to do like solve world hunger, The City is the spin off of The Hills, a “reality” show that sucks people into the buffoonery of rich, 20-somethings lives. On this week’s episode, Whitney is down because her boyfriend Jay is leaving to go on tour for two months and didn’t tell her until 5 days before he was leaving. She’s at a work party sitting by alone sulking, when Diane Von Furstenberg (Whitney works for DVF) sits down and asks her what’s wrong. Whitney goes into the sob story about Jay and how sad she is. Just when I’m about grab my laptop, Diane recaptures my attention and shares this jewel of a quote.

“Absence is to love what the wind is to fire. When it’s a small fire, the wind blows it out. When it’s a big fire, the wind intensifies it.”

When she said that, I thought, “Man, what a great analogy”! I’m not big on quotes reciting quotes, but I love to collect them and this one was worth writing down. I’d just had a conversation about long distance relationships and it seemed so timely. When it comes to relationships, we tend to get so caught up in the initial excitement that we will fight to keep it going no matter what the situation. We are not patient. We often think that the worse thing that can happen to a relationship is for one person to move away. I am guilty of this and am learning to be more patient when dating and to let things play out as it should. I’m a woman of action, which results in me trying to make things happen. What Diane said made it plain. Distance in a relationship is a test with two extreme grades: Pass (Summa Cum Laude) or Fail (Get kicked out school). What I take away from this is viewing distance as a time to reflect and assess the relationship versus viewing it as an inconvenience that is putting a potential roadblock to the relationship. Plain and simple, strong flames survive.